The Hidden Crisis Destroying the Muslim Community from Within

family life marriage Jan 17, 2019

Every time we watch or read the news, there seems to be another crisis developing in the Muslim world. Whether it’s Africa, Asia or the Middle-East Muslims seem to be in turmoil. Some of us living in the West are moved by what we see and try to help in different ways, like organising and attending charity dinners. More often than not, a lot of awareness is created and generous donations are made. However, unlike war, earthquakes or famine, when a crisis does not make the headlines, our reaction is much more subdued. As time has gone on, more and more of us are beginning to realise that there is a silent crisis unfolding across Muslim communities in the West. Yet many of us are oblivious to how serious and grave the situation currently is and will continue to be in the future. This silent crisis is the erosion of the very fabric of our communities: the family.

In my capacity as a family support consultant for a Muslim charity that works to strengthen the Muslim family, I see this crisis unfolding on a daily and weekly basis. Listening to what is going on in people’s lives and seeing dysfunctionality in Muslim families is difficult, yet its vital we continue to work in this field because to help a Muslim in his or her hour of need is one of the noblest actions in our religion.

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

“God is in the aid of his servant as long as his servant is aiding his brother” (Muslim).

I often think that if people were able to see and hear only a handful of the cases I deal with, they would weep over our condition and work tirelessly to try and improve it. The reality is a complete contrast. It saddens me to see Muslims arguing over basic Islamic issues or spending their time and effort fighting and quarrelling within organisations; whilst the community disintegrates around them.

Divorce has now become common and is on the increase. Imams up and down the country are complaining about the number of cases they are having to deal with. As a community, getting the family unit right is critical, as a whole host of social problems result as a direct consequence of the breakdown of the family unit. In the UK alone annual cost of family breakdown is estimated to be around £47 billion. Children with separated, single or step-parents are 50 per cent more likely to fail at school and report more depressive symptoms and higher levels of smoking, drinking and other drug use during adolescence and adulthood [1].

With divorce on the increase, a disproportionate prison population (England & Wales: 15%, Scotland: 2.5%) [2] and a drugs problem among many young British Muslims [3], is it not time we took a serious look at what is really happening in the communities we live in?

If we seriously want to tackle these issues, a lot more needs to be done than simply holding a few general talks on marriage and family life. We need to ponder deeply about why are so many families falling apart? Why are scores of young couples divorcing within a few years of marriage? And what do we need to be doing in order to rectify the situation?

We need to rethink the way young people choose their partners and how marriages are conducted. Young Muslims need to be guided and educated on marital issues. As part of my work, over the last few years I have been running a course specifically designed for single Muslims; which aims to equip them with the tools they need before getting married. The course incorporates real life cases and examples of what to do and more importantly of what not to do.

Teaching the course over many years has given me important opportunities to interact with young Muslims. I’ve realised that there is still more work to be done and our communities must continue to be educated and supported. In fulfilling this aim, I look forward to expanding my efforts online to share my experience with a wider audience.

The realisation that our families are in crisis is starting to hit home. Many of us have had some experience of family breakdown or know people who have gone through it. Lone parents are no longer a rarity. There was a time when non-Muslims admired the Muslim community for their strong family structures. Unfortunately, this has started to change. We need to act sooner rather than later. Inaction 10-20 years ago has led to our current predicament; the consequences of inaction today will only be seen in another 10-20 years time.

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

“Shall I not tell you of something that is better than fasting, prayer and charity?” They said: Yes. He said: “Reconciling between two people” (Tirmidhi).


  1. Children with separated parents
  2. Muslims in Prison
  3. Drugs in the Muslim Community

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