Master the entire process of getting married with tools and strategies to discover your true needs, confidently find the right spouse, ask all the right questions, and successfully get married in the correct manner.
Taught by a qualified Islamic Scholar and Marital Relations Specialist.
We all want to find the perfect life partner and experience a long-lasting, happy marriage. We all want to complete half of our Deen, and seek Allah’s rewards and blessings in our marriage. After all, marriage is one of the most beautiful and sacred institutions in Islam.
Allah (Most High) says in the Qur’an:
“And one of His signs is that He has created for you, spouses from amongst yourselves so that you might take comfort in them and He has placed between you, love and mercy. In this there is surely evidence (of the truth) for the people who carefully think.” (Surah 30, Verse 21)
But too often we rush the process of getting married and forget to take into consideration some crucial factors in our decision making process. Factors which, if bypassed, can lead to costly mistakes and potentially years of regret.
We can become blinded by the excitement, and overwhelmed by the confusion, misinformation and lack of practical advice on how to smoothly navigate the process of finding our soul mate.
Sometimes our short-term desires may cloud our thinking and affect our decision making, without truly understanding what makes an individual compatible for us on a physical, emotional and spiritual level.
However, by understanding the true purpose of marriage, mastering every step in the process, and correctly defining your personal and spiritual needs, you can cut through the confusion and confidently find the most suitable life partner and be one step closer to a successful life-long marriage that is full of Allah’s blessings.
Am I Fully Prepared
to Get Married?
How do I Ensure I Find and Marry the Right Person?
Do I Know the Right
Questions to Ask?
Do I Know the Islamic
Rulings of Marriage
If you can’t confidently answer these questions, you have a lot to think about before making such a big decision.
If the idea of looking for a partner, approaching them, understanding what to do or say, speaking with their family, and making that all-important decision makes you a little anxious, you’re not alone.
Although there are some good Islamic lectures which cover the virtues of marriage, there are very few that provide a practical framework and a step-by-step guide on what things to do, and when to do them.
This, along with misinformation and cultural misguidance, can cause many single Muslims to feel frustrated and be unaware of the basic principles and etiquettes related to marriage.
It’s crucial to learn how to put theory into practice.
Divorce rates among the Muslim community are rising every year. One contributing factor is that individuals are not taking the time out to evaluate their own needs beyond the superficial and materialistic aspects.
An overwhelming number of Muslims are not aware of the halal and haram aspects of marriage, and therefore fall into unnecessary sins which are proven to have detrimental long-term effects on a marriage.
Beyond looks and outward character, it takes a lot more effort to not only understand one’s own spiritual, emotional and physical needs, but to correctly determine whether or not a potential spouse will suitably match them.
It’s simply not enough to say “I’m looking for a good brother/sister” – this is far too vague. What does “good” really mean? In reality, the idea of “perfect” or “good” is different for everyone.
After discovering your own spiritual, emotional and physical needs, having a strategy for approaching someone for marriage will ensure that you are laser focused and don’t waste time by speaking to incompatible people.
Knowing exactly what questions to ask and the criteria you have set yourself, means that finding the right spouse will not only become easier, but by removing the guesswork, you will have extra time to spend on the real qualities that will make you happy.
Having ideas and strategies are crucial, but nothing is more important than conducting yourself in a way that is pleasing to our creator and thereby, maximising opportunities for the attainment of Allah’s blessings. Without Allah’s blessings any marriage will struggle.
Unfortunately many Muslims do not take the time to learn the the Islamic etiquette of getting married, and more often than not, can find themselves falling into activities which harm them and their marriage.
Unfortunately a lot of information out there related to marriage is general and mainly theoretical. While it’s important to understand the virtues and blessings or marriage, what’s commonly missing is a hands-on practical approach for finding the right partner.
This results in a lack of practical understanding and guidance which is catered specifically for a single Muslim living in the 21st century.
It’s time to put theory into practice!
Before You Say “I Do” is a live, hands-on, comprehensive all-in-one online programme that empowers you to develop a strategy for finding a spouse, understanding what to look for, and determining if they are the right person for you. Learn how to navigate the marital process with ease, confidence, and the tools needed for a successful marriage.
Join Shaykh Amer Jamil – an Islamic Scholar & Marriage Specialist – as he takes you on a journey from the moment you contemplate marriage, to finding the right spouse, all the way to the wedding, intimacy on the first night, and the journey ahead as a new couple.
The live course covers every step of the marital process in depth, providing both the Islamic rulings and advice from the Sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ, and the latest research from internationally renowned relationship experts.
By following the strategies laid out in this course you will be equipped with the exact tools you need to avoid wasting time, falling into mistakes and confidently approaching someone for marriage.
With 10 years of experience in the marital field and having personally dealt with over 1000 marriage-related cases, Shaykh Amer Jamil brings a wealth of experience and advice to this course.
Before You Say “I Do” is designed to remove any guesswork with regards to getting married, save you time, help you to avoid common mistakes, and equip you with the essential do’s and don’ts in order to find the spouse that’s perfect for you.
Be excited about the concept of getting married, but have no idea where to start or how to find Mr or Mrs ‘Perfect’.
Not know the do’s and don’ts and Islamic rulings during the process of getting married.
Have little or no strategy for searching for a spouse or how to determine if they are right for you.
Have approached many individuals for marriage but still struggle to find the right person.
Have little or no access to a qualified Islamic scholar & marital relations specialist to learn from.
Have questions or be nervous regarding sexual intimacy with your future spouse.
Be unsure as to what the opposite gender is looking for in a spouse – i.e. their emotional, physical and spiritual preferences.
Better understand the importance of marriage in Islam as well as marital rights and responsibilities between a couple.
Be able to better understand your personal and spiritual needs and determine exactly what you’re looking for in a spouse.
Have a step-by-step strategy to find the perfect spouse including how to approach a potential partner, what questions to ask, and how to seek Divine guidance.
Learn how to save time by avoiding incompatible people.
Understand the most detrimental mistakes and how to avoid them.
Learn the misconceptions regarding sexual intimacy and how best to approach it on the first night of marriage.
Understand the needs and preferences of the opposite gender (based on several real questionnaires from live classes).
6-Week Live Programme Starting on 11th July 2021
The introductory section of the course sets the scene by discussing the importance of the sacred institution of marriage, family units in Islam and understanding how and when to embark upon the blessed journey. Topics include:
Family breakdown and the effects on society
The importance of marriage
Getting started on the right foot
The benefits of marriage
When is the right time to get married?
One of the most important and often overlooked preliminary steps of getting married is to identify who you really are. Topics include:
What’s love got to do with it
How to avoid heartache
How the past is affecting your today
What to look for in a partner
Do opposites really attract?
Why are we attracted to certain types?
Being the heart and soul of this course this section provides the tools and strategies you need to navigate the marital process in the most efficient way possible.
What should we look for in the opposite sex?
Finding the right person and the issue of compatibility
The “such a nice guy/girl” trap
Spotting the red flags
The necessary steps to finalise the decision. Topics include:
The recommendation of looking
The role of the family
Advice for New Muslims
Make sure you get started on the right foot. Topics include:
The prayer of guidance: Istikhara
The role of the guardian (wali)
Concept of engagement
The marriage contract (nikah)
Special supplications (du’as) and acts to facilitate marriage
In these final sections Shaykh Amer Jamil shares valuable advice for newlyweds and in the bonus material he discusses how to best navigate the first few years of married life.
The wedding night and the honeymoon
The early years of marriage
Things to watch out for early on
The course will be delivered by a highly qualified Islamic Scholar & Marriage Specialist
Having spent 10 years studying Islamic sciences in various countries with distinguished scholars Shaykh Amer Jamil is a traditionally trained and fully qualified scholar.
Since co-founding the award-winning Islamic Studies course – iSyllabus – Shaykh Amer has taught 1000s of students and is known for his practical and hands-on approach.
Shaykh Amer’s specialisation lies in Islamic Family Law. Being a certified NLP practitioner and also holding a certificate in counselling skills he has combined his religious and secular knowledge to help contextualise marital issues for the contemporary Muslim living in the 21st century.
With over 10 years of experience in dealing with around 1000 real-life marital cases Shaykh Amer brings not only the Islamic know-how, but also hands-on marital consultation experience, insightful case studies and personal advice.
A Complete A-Z Roadmap For Finding Your Perfect Spouse
This comprehensive pre-marital course comprises weekly online classes for 6 weeks over Zoom with direct access to Shaykh Amer Jamil. The total length of the course will be more than 6 hours and all the recordings will be added to a course portal.
Not only do you get access to all the live course sessions, you get LIFETIME access to all the recordings. This means that you can progress through the course at your own pace and convenience, or go back and review any lesson or module at any time in the future.
These notes have been written to accompany the full-length course including additional Arabic text (e.g. for Quranic verses and supplications) and space to complete the discussion questions and exercises. It is both printable and downloadable.
During the course, Shaykh Amer presents several discussion questions for you to complete. These exercises are vital to your success during this course, and we strongly encourage you to spend a sufficient amount of time completing these before watching the videos that contain the answers.
Along with all of the above content accumulated from 10 years of Shaykh Amer’s marital relations experience, you’ll also receive the following bonuses for free when you sign up today:
Included in the bonus Q&A session of this course are a wide variety of questions submitted by students from the many previous marriage classes that Shaykh Amer has taught. These questions have been categorised and answered within the videos available in this section.
As a paying student of this course you have the option to submit questions related to the course material for Shaykh Amer to answer. The most relevant questions will be collected, categorised and periodically answered by Shaykh Amer via a video, live session or a written response which will be made available to all students enrolled on this course.
This document contains some of the supplications referred to in the main portion of the Before You Say “I Do” pre-marital course. Supplications include the Arabic text along with English translations and transliterations.
Thinking of the right questions to ask can be daunting. We've done the work for you and compiled 50 of the most important questions covering religion, personal life, future plans, finances and more.
Combined Value: £27
A small one-time investment to prepare you for a lifetime of happiness – Insha'Allah. Not only will you receive everything mentioned above, you will also have access to a wealth of knowledge from over 10 years of experience by a qualified Islamic Scholar & Marital Relations Specialist.
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Sign up now and if within 14 days of the course starting, you feel that this course isn't right for you, then simply email us and we will give you a full, no-questions-asked 100% refund. This means that you'll get to try two lessons risk-free (one-third of the course). That is our promise to you, because we are confident in the course and because we want this purchase to be fair to you. In fact, with this 100% satisfaction guarantee, you have NOTHING to lose... but potentially A LOT to gain, Insha'Allah.
"I think the pre-marital course is a must for every single Muslim. It made me think about many things and face the realities of life overall about finding a spouse. Shaykh Amer delivered the course brilliantly and touched upon the key points. The course was concise and interactive for the students. It kept me engaged in the topic and learning. I would recommend this course to all single Muslims."
"MashAllah it was a very informative course because I feel that there is not one aspect that you left out. It was interesting to see what the opposite genders were looking for in each other. I particularly enjoyed the questions and answers section… real life situations and how to get by them. I loved the course and would do it all over again :)"
"Absolutely Fabulous! As well as receiving crucial information on the Islamic perspective of marriage, it was interesting to hear about the reality of issues around finding a suitable marriage partner and things we need to do before hand to avoid breakups in the future."
"I would definitely recommend this course to every individual as it helps put a lot of things into perspective and how to go about finding the right partner to suit you. My understanding and approach to finding a partner has definitely changed for the better as before I did not have a good an understanding of what to do as I do now."
"All aspects of the course were benificial and necessary to know prior to marriage, particularly the information about the do’s and don’t’s of sexual intercourse as Muslims are inexperienced regarding this and it can be too embarrassing to discuss the right and wrong way if doing it with others. The private way of being able to ask questions was very encouraging."
"One very unique aspect of the course was the extensive experience that the presenter had in dealing with the practical aspects of marriage. I very much enjoyed the moments when this experience was put to effect, including the humorous but enlightening anecdotal stories that were shared, as well as the way that such experience informed the advice given. This sort of insight is absolutely invaluable."
"Gave well researched material from the Quran and Hadeeth, so this was definitely a good thing. And overall generally the quality of the content and information was first class."
"This was a very useful course that I highly recommend to all muslims before they think about getting married, looking for a partner or getting ready to get married/engaged. In fact I must say it’s essential!!!"
"Alhamdulillah the course is very engaging and makes you question yourself to a very deep level. I feel it will give young Muslims a clear head when choosing or trying to find a partner and will prevent them from falling into sin or rashful decisions."
"Excellent course which was delivered very well by the Shaykh. Great knowledge and experiences shared by him in a very interactive approach. Definitely recommend it to those who are considering marriage and choosing a partner."
Still have some questions about the course? See the answers to some of the most common questions below.
Before You Say “I Do” is a completely online-based 6-week long live course. Once a week for 6 weeks, there will be live classes over Zoom.
Modules include a video introduction, and various other instructions by Shaykh Amer Jamil which will enhance your learning experience.
Once enrolled, you will have lifetime access to the full course and may complete it at your own pace.
Once you enrol on to the course you will have lifetime access to all of the content currently available and also any additional / bonus content added in the future.
This includes access to any Q&A sessions that Shaykh Amer will conduct periodically throughout the year.
No problem! While we highly encourage live attendance in order to gain full benefits of the course, all classes will be recorded and made available for replay in our online portal.
The replay videos can be viewed on any device with internet access.
This means you can watch and learn from the comfort of your own home or work through the modules whilst on-the-go.
There will be a dedicated module within the online portal to submit questions. Students can also submit questions live to Shaykh Amer during the weekly classes.
Throughout the rest of the year, students may continue to submit questions through the portal.
Answers will be made available periodically via recorded videos, live webinars or written response.
The entire course workbook will be provided to students throughout the duration of the course.
Each week you will gain access to a PDF that includes notes and any resources for that lesson.
You will have the choice to either print the PDF and write notes or view on your device and type within the editable document.
Throughout the course Shaykh Amer sets exercises on topics that are related to that particular module.
These are designed to help you discover more about yourself and find answers to some crucial questions which, without doing so, will make finding the right spouse harder.
We highly recommend that you complete all exercises and discussion questions set by Shaykh Amer throughout the course.
Without doing so you are much less likely to take full benefit from the course and successfully achieve the final outcome.
Remember, these exercises are designed to equip you with the essential tools and know-how for finding the right spouse. They are perhaps one of the most important aspects of the course.
Each week, Shaykh Amer will review the homework exercises and share the answers along with his own personal advice and the correct Islamic perspective.
Anything worth long-term value requires both a commitment of time and money.
As online courses go, Before You Say “I Do” has been priced much cheaper compared to the standard £500-1000 fees we usually see online.
It is important to understand that enrolling on this course is a potentially life-changing investment.
When marriages go wrong (which, as Shaykh Amer points out is very common) the following can be expected:
– The average cost of just a single marital counselling session is between £50-100, with some charging upwards of £250 per session.
– Divorce and legal fees can amount to £1000s if not tens of thousands.
– The long-term emotional impact can last a lifetime.
With regards to the superficial or materialistic spending:
– Weddings commonly cost tens of thousands (not including clothing, jewellery etc)
– £1000s are spent on making the guests feel happy and welcome.
– Honeymoon holidays can cost £1000s.
The price of a long-lasting, happy, and blessed marriage is priceless.
The small fee we are charging for this course is not only a worthy investment for anybody who is serious about marrying the right person in the correct manner, but also combines Shaykh Amer Jamil’s decades of learning and teaching experience as a scholar are marriage specialist.
We offer a full, no-questions asked 14-day money-back guarantee beginning from the first live class. This means you get to try two full lessons (one-third of the course!) completely risk-free.
If the course isn’t right for you, contact our admin team and we will refund your investment.
After the 14-day period, we will no longer offer any refunds.
Yes, most definitely!
In fact learning the material within this course – way ahead of time – will put you at an advantage when it comes to beginning the process of finding the right spouse and getting married.
You will understand crucial factors related to marriage which many people overlook and will have even more time to contemplate upon the exercises and discussion questions that Shaykh Amer sets.
Once the time for marriage arrives you may refresh your memory by watching the course again. Don’t forget, once you enrol you will have lifetime access.
Yes, most definitely!
When you enrol, simply type in the person’s name and email address and they will be sent the login details for the course.